My mornings begin under a pile of cats and children. If the sun hasn’t risen, a cat will. She will begin purring and licking my nose with dry, coarse sandpaper kisses; at this point it’s hard to stay asleep, and Booger kitty has the edge on this game.
On Halloween eve she successfully commanded me to awaken and then feed her, and as I made coffee she stopped mid-breakfast to crunch and smile back up at me, quite satisfied. One can measure the contentedness of a cat quite easily by purr strength and coat gloss, but in Booger one can faintly discern a smile. Her eyes glint.
Our days parted briefly as I drove the boys to school. As we pulled away we watched her bat an acorn through the yellow leaves in the driveway.
When it was time to feed the quail and the chickens, she sat atop the covey box and watched, knowing how good fresh quail taste (she really knows.) And then she climbed a tree for no reason.
Many hours later, the boys were home again, playing Star Wards in the backyard. The chickens were ranging. Booger sprawled flat atop the big white planter on a new bed of borage seedlings, and I, miffed, pulled her off the flattened sprouts and shook my head. I brought her warm fluffy body up to my face and hugged her close, very snug for a cat, but she doesn’t mind that. She is a mellow cat. One thing I love about her, besides her luxurious fluffy, long Oreo cookie coat, is her sweet manner. Again, she is always smiling.
The odd thing is that I have to grieve for losing all of this, because when Damon pulled in from work he found her on the road in front of our house. The pavement, days later, was still shiny and red, and I am beginning to wonder how I can possibly keep enduring these seemingly routine losses of joy and warmth and family from my home. Only two months ago we lost her brother, George McFly, to an early Monday morning commuter.
Damon, the man who steps up without fail, quietly buried her while I cried. I could hear him in the dark outside, an occasional shovel grating stone, while Chas sat next to me on the sofa. Chas put his small hand on mine. He let me mutter my sadness while he listened.
He asked me what it feels like when we die. I told him that I don’t know. I told him that I imagine it’s muffled and peaceful and white, like snow. Everywhere.
And then I felt like crap for being downer mom. Am I supposed to lie?
I can’t lie to the kids. But they are too young to be men, and they already react with a farmer’s mentality, Ford reminding me that “it’s okay, mom, cats come and go.”
But it’s not okay, and the Borage seedlings are now tall again, and the quail are still being fed and the cats are still playing, all as if nothing is changed or missing, even though it just aches and aches in those blank spaces she used to occupy, smiling.